For as long as I could remember I’ve always been big. I grew up the little chubby cute girl, with big eyes, big hair and dimples.
I ate like any other child does, I was active and played netball, however, I was still chubby. I was bullied a lot for this. I was not a quiet child, however, through the years I became withdrawn. I reserved myself for people and places that I was allowed to be myself, like home. I was happiest at home with my family because there, no one reminded me how fat I was or made me feel bad about it.
The Road to Happiness/Laughter, Truly The Best Medicine
One thing I could not contain was my laughter. Laughing is second nature to me, if I got into trouble it was always as a result of my laughter. I was tormented through my high school days to the point that I insisted on taking a gap year. I wanted to stay home and just have a full year of being happy.
Of course, my parents would not hear of this, in retrospect, I thank God for that. My mother is the reason I didn’t become a sad and bitter individual. Her love and encouragement were always there, through all the bullying and tears. I often say God speaks to me through my mom, she has answers for everything.
My Game Changer
I started my first year of varsity at the age of 17, at this point I was at the pinnacle of self-discovery. On my first day on campus, one of the 3rd year students said to me “I love your waistline.”
Every now and again, I wish I could bump into the lady who said that to me. Simply because on the day of our encounter, I got home, stripped naked in front of the mirror and really looked at my body. For the first time, I acknowledged myself and said, “she’s right, this waistline is BOMB.” After all those years it was in varsity that I found a new relationship with my body just from one positive comment from a complete stranger.
We all need to learn that the people we come across daily may be fighting some kind of battle. A battle you might never ever get to know of.
BE KIND. Your words hold so much power and can have the best impact over someone’s next chapter.