The Psychology of The Female Orgasm

Regardless of the extensive writings about the orgasm, there still exists no universal definition for this word.

The most fitting definition of an orgasm is: The peak sensation of intense pleasure. Creating an altered state of consciousness accompanied by involuntary rhythmic contractions of the pelvis and vagina and the emission of fluids from sex glands.

From this definition of a female orgasm it is clear that the female body is physiologically capable of reaching an orgasmic state. The question is then, why do large numbers of females still struggle to climax?

The difficulty or inability to reach an orgasm may be influenced by both physical and psychological factors. These play a large role in a woman’s sexual responsiveness. The common physical factors include: fatigue, effects of a drug, alcohol use, diabetes and injury to the glands or spinal cord.

Top 7 Factors that can Inhibit Orgasms

Now that we have eliminated the physical aspects, let’s move on to the psychosocial factors that limit a woman’s sexual experience because the female body is greatly influenced by their state of mind. Psychosocial factors that have a negative influence on a woman’s ability to reach an orgasm include:

  1.  The presence of emotional distress (especially that related to the relationship).
  2.  A history of sexual abuse whereby sexual intercourse becomes a trigger of the traumatic experience.
  3.  Having a low self-esteem and body image.
  4. Socialization and religious affiliations.
  5.  Performance anxiety.
  6. The fear of losing control
  7. Mental health illness such as depression

The aforementioned factors either individually or jointly play a role in a female’s inability to reach an orgasm. Having a low self-esteem, socialization, anxiety, abuse and emotional distress are prevalent factors in the lives of various females. Religious and cultural socialization instill a belief in young females that engaging in sexual intercourse is forbidden outside marriage. This then makes it difficult for an unmarried woman to accept their sexual desires and sexual actions.

A preoccupation with this causes the woman to have mixed emotions about her sexuality. Feelings of guilt arise, which in turn may lead to her body not responding to sexual stimulation. This, subsequently resulting in the inability to reach an orgasm.

Low Self Esteem, Body Issues and Anxiety

Similarly, females that suffer from low self-esteem, body image problems and anxiety are likely to become preoccupied with their feelings. This may remove them from being fully present during the sexual interaction and thus inhibit their ability to feel ultimate pleasure. Past experience of sexual abuse, rape and incest, although scary, are a reality for most women.

Women that have experienced the aforementioned, may have a fear of arousing repressed memories of abuse and trauma. This affects their ability to reach an orgasm greatly. Engaging in sexual intercourse becomes a trigger of unwanted memories. The sex act may be associated with the abuser and this results in sexual intercourse becoming a pain evoking experience.

The female psyche plays a critical role in their ability to reach an orgasm. A vast majority of women are most likely to have orgasms only under comfortable conditions, with a skilled and sensitive partner.

Therefore we encourage women to introspect, explore and accept their feelings surrounding sex and reduce stress in their life, more so that pertaining her relationship. Exploration of your body through masturbation may also assist in learning more about what gives you pleasure, which can then be communicated to your partner. These act may have the potential to positively influence a female’s ability to be mindful during sex and begin to enjoy sex.


Post Author: Nokhetho Mhlanga

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