To Cheat or Not to Cheat? That Is the Question
In this day and age, it seems that a monogamous relationship is hard to come by. One then, has to ask oneself, if monogamy is a reasonable expectation.
I must say, this topic is a great conversation starter at braai’s or the regular hangout with friends. In the past few years it seems that more and more people are starting to yield to their inner voice that is screaming out for polygamous relations.
More and more explanations are given to why it is just ridiculous that we, as humans, confine ourselves to the nuclear families when our core is telling us otherwise. This is not to say that there is something wrong with nuclear families or monogamous relationships/marriages. The idea is merely stating that written within your DNA, is a primal instinct to have multiple sexual partners.
Marriage, monogamy, polygamy
Let us unpack the idea of marriage and monogamy within our society a little. **The word “marriage” derives from Middle English marriage, which first appears in 1250–1300 CE.** This means that prior to 1250 CE, marriage as a legal institution did not exist. The popularity of marriages was initially fueled by inheritance. At this point in our history, women were more persecuted than in the present. Women were subjugated and the men made up all the rules. When it came to inheritance, one needed to be certain of the legitimacy of their offspring. Thus, the law was created that restricted women from having multiple partners. This happened before it was religious act. Marriage is purely an economical institution which now resides under the cloak of religion.
When Is Cheating, Cheating?
At some point in our lives most of us reach that point. The point where you flirt just a little too much. Where you are attracted to someone else just a little bit too much. Where it takes an insurmountable discipline to restrain yourself. As much as it really says nothing about your partner, the guilt that builds up within you grows exponentially with every conversation.
Have you already crossed the line at this point?
Many would argue that yes you have. There has been a rise in the occurrence of what is known as emotional cheating. This is cheating without the physical part. Examples include that guy that slides into your dm’s. A colleague sending you one too many memes and you can’t imagine your day without it. That secret somebody you keep to yourself but puts the biggest smile on your face.
Are We Greedy or Is Our Lust Justified?
One can argue that mother nature always knows what she is doing. Allow me to elaborate. When your throat itches your body automatically coughs to try and rectify the problem. If your bladder is full, your body forces you to find the nearest restroom and relieve yourself. When you have food poisoning, you will either regurgitate whatever you have just ingested or it will leave your system via the other “exit.”
Clearly the body knows what it needs and it knows the answer to all its needs regardless of your thoughts or socialization. Then why is it so wrong to yield to one of the bodies strongest urges?
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs places sex as at the base of humanity. Physiology is undeniable and undisputed. You simply can’t turn off your need for breathing, food, water or sleep. Why are you expected to turn off your need for sex?
I am not supporting promiscuity or reckless sexual encounters. I am just curious as to why people cheat or not cheat.