After being called “2 slice”, “ skeleton” and “scarecrow “ most of my life and now recently being called FAT by loved ones and strangers alike, I realised that people will always find something to tease you about, whether it is your weight, your head, how you say things – Anything really!
Most of the time, people tease you to make themselves feel better, to seek attention or gain power over you. They often do not know or consider the damage that they could be doing by teasing.
Time and the changes it brings:
In African society, being curvy means that you are healthy and have the demeanour to be a woman. European outlook completely changed this, symbolising women as thin, frail, weak and subservient. Throughout the 20th and 21st century, it has been found that women are becoming more voluptuous. The current idealistic society standard of thinness is not achievable for most women. Is society creating self- hatred by insisting that only one body image should be aspired to?
As a society, we have been indoctrinated to believe in the stigma around people’s weight and make blatant conclusions about people based on their weight. The ideal praises thinness and castrates anyone that doesn’t conform- and this needs to be redefined.
Each woman, each man is beautiful in more ways than one.
Simply defining ourselves by our weight is robbing ourselves of celebrating what makes us human and alive – no matter the size, race, culture, creed etc. We are but less than a dot in the time space continuum – and we should be focusing our time in the short time frame we have, on more important things then teasing one another.
What’s in a name
Yes – I am FAT (my BMI is more than a certain number). My weight (whether thin or fat) does not define who I am and what I can or can’t do. I also will not live according to other people’s standards of what I should look like. I need to be okay with myself when I look in a mirror. When I look in the mirror I do not see a FAT person staring back. I see my face, my smile and my contentedness that I am living my life according to my own truth and I love myself for that, and so should you
Author: Cindy Mgoza